Chronic Lateness. Can You Deal with People that are Always Late? I Can't
Stephanie of Real Housewives of Miami Reminds us how annoying being late is in a group of friends or family members.
Stephanie Shojaee has burst onto The Real Housewives of Miami this season. She's a self proclaimed real estate mogul in Miami, married to a much older man that is her business partner and doesn't sugar coat her thoughts and feelings. Jury is still out on whether I love her or not until I see the entire season.
On episode 5, the cast piled into a Sprinter van en route to Alexia’s “Greek-goddess” party, only to sit and stew for a full two hours waiting for Lisa. I kept thinking 'there is no way these group of girls are waiting that long'. I couldn't decide whether I believed this was actually happening or this is a producer plot to create fake drama. I do remember many other times Lisa has kept the girls waiting so I tend to believe it's at least 'mostly true'.
When Lisa finally entered the van Stephanie who has only met her once, comes right at her before Lisa even sits down with "Lisa, do you think your time is more important than all of ours?”. Now I don't agree with that tactic only because that approach will warrant arguing about her delivery instead of the fact Lisa was so late. I think she should've side eyed her and maybe brought it up later or wait until they started driving. I would've left or brought up once we were on the road "Lisa I don't really know you but I will not wait for you again in the future as I find it to be very disrespectful and unacceptable", something along those lines. I wonder if Lisa is so late getting ready for five hours, which to me is reason enough not to be friends with her. I can't with women that make their whole lives about how they look and take several hours for every outing. I'm sure this behavior was a chronic issue in her marriage as well. This trait shows you're extremely self consumed and only thinking of yourself.
I have actually lost friends over tardiness. I found it interesting that a lot of the other people in the group would not be as agitated as I was? This particular group was a mommy group of our kids that attended the same activity. I came to the conclusion that they were just an older group of ladies happy to have a group of friends to go out with and have company, which I understand but at the same time I cannot just pretend it didn't bother me.
This one lady was the culprit always late and I'm talking 20-40 minutes late, not 5-10 minutes. You would get to her house that she designated the 'meeting spot' and would make us wait and watch her clean up her kitchen and get ready, something that would infuriate me! lol. She was the person that would show up to a restaurant 30 minutes or more while everyone waited to order with her 'story' of the mission she was on.
She was the person that would call us and make us drive to another location to pick her up after waiting at a different location because she got stuck at another function. The list goes on and on and one day I just couldn't take it and said "I'm sorry I don't have time to run around following you, waiting for you, and catering to your schedule. When you have plans to meet at 6pm and it's 5:30pm and you're still not ready and not leaving to your location to be on time, you're PURPOSELY meaning to be late and inconsiderate. You're old enough to know how these things work and I guarantee you if you were this late to work everyday you'd be fired so essentially you know how to be on time to people you know you can't get away with it." The other girls agreed with me away from her but in front of her they acted like it was just me annoyed. This led to her and I no longer hanging out and essentially the entire group since she was their 'leader' in a sense. I'm ok with it and I will never be involved with chronically late people. It's just not worth it for people you see regularly. If I see you once a year then maybe I could deal with it but not for a friend I see often.
Do you have friends and family members that are chronically late? Do you speak up? What is their response, defensive or apologetic and working on it?
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